someone's first choice

was watching this popular hongkong drama about family ties, named 家好月圆。 it's about a father who divorced his wife and married another woman, but discovered his mistake. it's a rather big family, with a combined number of 7 children, 5 from the first wife, 1 adopted, 1 from the second wife with her previous husband. there're quite a few couples inside the drama, but the story of one particular couple strikes me the most.

it was the guy who was nicknamed steward boy, son of the man, and the daughter of the second wife with her previous husband, Yu Su qiu. i like her name, cuz got 秋. haha..su

anyway, the love story between them began when they were young. it was a mutual feeling since then. but somehow, they didn't get together. eventually she became a doctor, but he remained just a cake baker in her mother's shop. not sure why, becuz i didn't really watch in the beginning, but both of them didn't get together. soon after, a male doctor came into the picture and she got together with him. though steward boy was sad, but he didn't avoid her, while keeping his feelings deep inside. the two doctors subsequently broke up due to some issues; he left to find his ex without explanation. suqiu was left heartbroken and steward boy comforted her along the way. both of them eventually got together, but suddenly broke up again when the male doctor came back.

alright, that was a long descriptive background. but the whole story kinda brings the question in love. if you're not someone's first choice, are you still willing to be with the person? on the pretext that he/she would leave you at the first instance that his/her first choice return? or on a milder case, he/she got together with you, because his/her first choice is unavailable; married, dead, or just disappeared. the question is, will you accept such a situation? to live with the knowledge that you're somehow 'second class' in her world of love. their first choice is not you, but your first choice is them. could you live with that?

then the next question that came into my mind was this, is there really a first/second/third choice in love? people, or as i envisioned it, says that love is a combination of destiny/opportunity, and the courage to pursue it, take action. there and then, when they say i love you, and i say i love you, we are each other's first choice. or maybe, in love, there shouldn't even be talks about choices. or rather, it's not you are my first choice, it should be i choose you, and you choose me.

but well, the drama ended, and the couple had a happy ending because the getting back together with the male doctor was a scheme to trick her mum. in the end, she still love and marry steward boy.

back to work then. earning $0.35 per entry. sighz.

Oh ya, was dreaming that I was a detective.
Probably influenced by the forensic lecture. Haha..