the princess sickness

i was completely in shock when i saw this video on facebook.
it's a tv show that brings couples who are on the verge of separation on stage and see what can be done (i think).
the introduction kinda portrayed the girl as a victim of the separation.
she questioned, what wrong did she commit, to cause her love to want to leave her.

it came as quite a shock about what the girl did over the 4 years they were together.
and i felt that the guy was justified in wanting to leave the girl, with the trigger of the girl treating his mother in an undesirable manner.
that was really too much.
the princess sickness that this girl has is to the point of ultimate selfishness; only care for herself, think for herself, disregard the feelings of her boyfriend and her boyfriend's family.

what's more surprisingly to me other than the fact that such a girl exists, is how did the guy stand all these unreasonable requests and unruly behaviors?
i truly admired the guy, both his efforts and his tolerance.

there is a follow-up to this couple in another video, in which the guy mentioned that she has made some changes to better this relationship.
i guess all those weird requests and behaviors would simply get withered away once there'is some fundamental elements that are added into her mindset.
for example, caring more for him, etc.

i guess any guys who saw this video would look back at their girlfriends or wives and think to themselves - they were lucky they didnt meet such a person before. hahaha...
or at least, i am.
i feel extremely lucky to have met yn, to have found someone understanding and reasonable. =)

one thing that was mentioned in the video that i thought was noteworthy.

- do not change your own virtue because of your partner

stand by your own principles in life, and don't allow them to be compromised by another.
it's a personal integrity, an identity of self.
and this doesn't only apply to romantic relationships, but also other relationships.

well, time to talk about other things...

i have developed this hatred for smokers lately.

1) this table of uncles and aunties smoked next to my family and I at the kopitiam while we were having dinner. i am quite sure they're not allowed to do so

2) i spotted 2 underaged idiots smoking. 1 of them this evening while i was walking back from the clinic for my treatment on my wrist again... he was barely into his teens. i'm not even sure he's in secondary school.

the hatred is both for the dreaded 2nd-hand smoke that i had to inhale because of 1), and for the stupidity of the young in 2).

smoking is not cool.
if you smoke because your friends smoke, then you're weak
your submission to the pressure is the proof that your decision-making executive function is undeveloped.
and you push this deficiency further by smoking and killing your body.
unwise and uncool.

makes me think of this acronym, YOLO (You only live once)
a lot of ppl use this as an excuse to do stupid stuff
i'll take my chances on the stuff that is worth the experience rather than stupid.

a little burned

today's the second time me and the guys played a little basketball for this week.
havent shoot a ball for so long, but it's comforting to know you never lose some skills.
although all other skills kinda degraded along with my stamina, strength and dexterity, especially when my left wrist is still hurting after 2 weeks.
i could still remember being in the process of blacking out within the first 5 minutes of the game the previous time tuesday.
my vision was blurring, i could feel my breath tightening.
the sensation that if i push myself any further, i would pass out literally, on the court, under 5 minutes.
i'm not sure on average how many times a person would experience this unique sensation.
but it's definitely not a positive experience.
can't rmb how many times i have felt this before, probably a couple of times when i was still a young boy in police cadet uniform, standing there proudly, and palely, in the parade square.
badminton? i knew a few times i would push myself, but hardly ever got to the stage whereby my brain suddenly get deprived of blood supply.
this probably happened because my heart hasnt been conditioned to pumping blood all round the body and i didn't do much warm up beforehand.
i tried to outsmart my rusty body by injecting myself with milo. it worked. haha..

i'm a little burned, the heat from the sun seemed more intense than it was on tues.
but it was fun.
we would have played a little longer if not for our burned face.
and i should get my left wrist fixed.

i've officially signed the paper which binds me to DSO as their employee on 14th Nov.
and had rejected both MFS and MND offers.
now i'm just waiting for the medical and security to clear and i'm well on my way into the working society that all of us are so eager to enter when we're finding employment, but would be dreading it once we're in it.
i have around a month left to be in the stage between "I'm employed!' and "I'm free!".
it's a pretty good feeling
but i think i need to find something useful to do in order to continue feeling good.
helping my parents paint the living room is one.
i might decide to paint my room too.
getting some personal projects done would be ideal too.
but most imptly still, getting my left wrist fixed.

this evening i spent 2 hours "walking" my terrapin around the house.
sometimes it would follow me walk away
other times it would just try to wiggle into some small spaces which after it would be trapped.
maybe it's not trapped, but i kept 'saving' it anyway.
for the 11 years that it has been staying with my family, i think my family really grew accustomed to it.
while i was 'walking' it around, i realized my sister would use her leg to scare it a bit, stepping it lightly, sprinkling water on it.
my mum, when she went to bathe, who pick it up and put it back into its tank.
it makes me wonder if i could just let loose my terrapin around the house, make a container which it can access to with water and food.
with that, the whole house could the my terrapin's playground.
as compared to facing the 4 walls in the container, it's a much better environment to live, especially when it has such a long 'shell-life'.
just an idea, but i dont think it's practical.
probably a restricted area instead of the whole house.

yn is busy preparing for her exams in 2 weeks time.
yet here i am, having so much time in my hands.
it's a pity, but at least i know we would probably have maybe a week or less which both of us are free and we could go and do some stuff which i have been thinking about.
it's all those activities which we have talked about before but didn't have the chance to do them yet.
well, for now i'll just have to wait patiently until her papers are over.
so, jiayou yn!
score lots of As!

by the way, FRIENDS blu-ray has been released and i'm wondering whether to get it or not.
or should i purchase the season DVD which have the footage that was not broadcast.
hmm.. or does the blu-ray version has the same thing?
i downloaded a few from season 1 to watch.
well it looks much brighter.
and they still make me laugh out out literally even though i might have watched it over 3 times.

haven't been mj-ing much lately.
been about 2 weekends since i touched the tiles and shouted PONG
had a bet the other day with yn.
she said i'm always losing in mj.
and i'm out to prove her wrong.
hopefully.
hahaha...

celebration with yn~

yn had a whole day planned out especially for me for my bday celebration yesterday.

it was really sweet and touching to have someone do that for me. =)

we started off by going to tiong bahru market to eat my favorite food; chicken rice!

it was raining rather heavily by the time we reached.

but we bought umbrellas from 7-11 and walked for a bit to reach the place.

the chicken rice was nice! with you tiao also~

went to books actually which is a store nearby that sells books.

quite a lot of local books there.

we bought 3 together =) 

next up is singing k at teo heng, ntu alumni club.

it was still raining, so the umbrellas we bought were pretty useful.

i was rather delighted and surprised at her plan of bringing me to sing.

it has been something that i kept talking about wanting to do with her. haha..

a slow walk up the slope of the alumni club hill and then we sang there for around 2.5 hrs.

she even sang a bday song, but it wasnt really the normal kind -_-

it was there when she gave me the gifts that she had prepared for me.

the cushion - the one i liked the most, with my name written all over it

the mug - with "my manfriend" written on it, initially thought it was imprinted instead of written.

the house - kinda rainbowy on the roof, with a picture of us in the front

puzzles - 2 ring puzzles (not sure if that's the right term)

aroma thingy - to fill my room with aroma scene

it was also there when i gave her the scarf i bought for her korea trip.

probably the most satisfied gift i have given her. haha..

next was dinner at watami.

the food was nice~ worth the money!

we had the photoshoot done at white cottage.

the whole place was really white, thus the name of white cottage.

took us a while to find the place too.

the photoshoot was rather simple, kinda fun and novel for both of us.

she wasnt that pleased with the results though, but we still managed to select 10 which we like the most

the night ended just like that, but the day was filled with lots of joy.

it's the first time my bday has so many activities planned out for me =)

grateful for the love that i've found. 

my 25th

today's my 25th.
that means i'm 1/4 of a decade old.
i have lived for 25 years.

something good happened today.
of all the interviews i went for, the one i thought was the worst actually got back and offered me a position. MND! seriously, i thought i blew it. somehow, it just came back. haha..

but i'm more interested in the mfs and the dso position.
so i'm gonna wait it out.

went to the temple to pray to god ma for her blessings.
the crowd was overwhelming during lunch time.
after that wander around bugis+ and saw an old friend who is now working at garena as a management associate. sounds cool to be working in gaming company.

received a few gifts from my family today.
my sis bought me 2 shirts and a tie.
my mum gave me an ang pow.
my dad gave me a $100 taka voucher. haha...
which he got it free from his starhub dinner lucky draw.

went to the old place opposite chong pang for some relatively cheap and delicious zhu chao.
and a nice tiramisu cake bought by sis~
it's an overall, nice and simple celebration for the end of my 25th year breathing.

yn couldnt celebrate with me today, but she got a whole day planned out tml!
looking forward to tml~ =)

the job offer from MND puts a lot of pressure off me, and also comforted yn quite a bit.
at least i can have this position.
it really felt great to be accepted and offered.
the pay's not bad too.

my mum made me pick 4 numbers.
8366.
that's almost the same digits as my offered pay. haha..

maybe i should buy too.