the princess sickness

i was completely in shock when i saw this video on facebook.
it's a tv show that brings couples who are on the verge of separation on stage and see what can be done (i think).
the introduction kinda portrayed the girl as a victim of the separation.
she questioned, what wrong did she commit, to cause her love to want to leave her.

it came as quite a shock about what the girl did over the 4 years they were together.
and i felt that the guy was justified in wanting to leave the girl, with the trigger of the girl treating his mother in an undesirable manner.
that was really too much.
the princess sickness that this girl has is to the point of ultimate selfishness; only care for herself, think for herself, disregard the feelings of her boyfriend and her boyfriend's family.

what's more surprisingly to me other than the fact that such a girl exists, is how did the guy stand all these unreasonable requests and unruly behaviors?
i truly admired the guy, both his efforts and his tolerance.

there is a follow-up to this couple in another video, in which the guy mentioned that she has made some changes to better this relationship.
i guess all those weird requests and behaviors would simply get withered away once there'is some fundamental elements that are added into her mindset.
for example, caring more for him, etc.

i guess any guys who saw this video would look back at their girlfriends or wives and think to themselves - they were lucky they didnt meet such a person before. hahaha...
or at least, i am.
i feel extremely lucky to have met yn, to have found someone understanding and reasonable. =)

one thing that was mentioned in the video that i thought was noteworthy.

- do not change your own virtue because of your partner

stand by your own principles in life, and don't allow them to be compromised by another.
it's a personal integrity, an identity of self.
and this doesn't only apply to romantic relationships, but also other relationships.

well, time to talk about other things...

i have developed this hatred for smokers lately.

1) this table of uncles and aunties smoked next to my family and I at the kopitiam while we were having dinner. i am quite sure they're not allowed to do so

2) i spotted 2 underaged idiots smoking. 1 of them this evening while i was walking back from the clinic for my treatment on my wrist again... he was barely into his teens. i'm not even sure he's in secondary school.

the hatred is both for the dreaded 2nd-hand smoke that i had to inhale because of 1), and for the stupidity of the young in 2).

smoking is not cool.
if you smoke because your friends smoke, then you're weak
your submission to the pressure is the proof that your decision-making executive function is undeveloped.
and you push this deficiency further by smoking and killing your body.
unwise and uncool.

makes me think of this acronym, YOLO (You only live once)
a lot of ppl use this as an excuse to do stupid stuff
i'll take my chances on the stuff that is worth the experience rather than stupid.